Maintaining Healthy Relationships
We maintain our automobiles. We maintain our jobs. We maintain our homes and our lawns. However, when it comes to maintaining healthy relationships, we often believe that they are self-maintaining. Love is enough; sexual attraction is enough, right? Wrong.
Maintaining healthy relationships requires knowledge of the problems that can occur in relationships and ways to address these problems. It requires dialogue, and routine surveillance for ways that problems and old solutions morph into needs for new solutions. Before you groan and think “Oh, no. This sounds like work!” it is important for you to know that this can also be a juicy, exciting process with skill sets that you can master just like other skill sets, such as improving and maintaining your golf game, public speaking, or job skills.
Winning at Love outlines these skills in an easy-to-understand and entertaining way. It first discusses problems encountered in relationships and then outlines in a step-by-step fashion skill sets necessary for maintaining relationships. While this book is useful for any couple, it is unique in that it addresses methods that are particular to alphas. What is an alpha?
Alpha designates “the first” and we first started designating this to the leaders of animal packs, such as wolves. Approximately 40% of all males and females are alphas. The alpha is usually the strongest and the bravest, the leader of the pack. They possess such attributes as dominance, confidence, and a take-charge attitude. The alpha has a high level of self-directedness, as they doggedly go about their goals. Alphas are usually aggressive, competitive high achievers, with a strong sense of mission and can be bold, creative innovative thinkers. Often highly successful in the world, the alpha’s traits of persistence, tenacity, determination and steadfastness help them to achieve their goals.
However, the very traits that make alphas successful in the world can prevent a healthy relationship. Even if eighty percent of what an alpha does is really good for the relationship, the twenty percent that he or she does out of their alpha attitude and behavior is enough to blow up the relationship. They often put their profession or career ahead of their intimate relationship, they can expect of others the same high standards that they expect of themselves, they can impose their driven nature onto others and they can come across as critical and opinionated. Alphas often feel ambivalent about being in intimate relationships.
If you are an alpha, or in relationship with an alpha, or seeking ways to improve relationships under any circumstance, this book is a must.
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