Marriage Relationships
The divorce rate for first marriages is over fifty percent; for second marriages over sixty percent. With statistics like this, it is easy to wonder how couples go about establishing healthy marriage relationships.
The book, Winning at Love provides you with step-by-step guidelines for doing this. Too often, obstacles to good marriage relationships are noted as “lack of communication”. What does that mean? In their book, co-authors Pat Webster and Martin Groder outline problems encountered in trying to establish a good relationship. Included in these problems are special problems encountered when one or both parthers are alphas. What is an alpha?
Alpha designates “the first” and we first started designating this to the leaders of animal packs, such as wolves. Approximately 40% of all males and females are alphas. The alpha is usually the strongest and the bravest, the leader of the pack. They possess such attributes as dominance, confidence, and a take-charge attitude. The alpha has a high level of self-directedness, as they doggedly go about their goals. Alphas are usually aggressive, competitive high achievers, with a strong sense of mission and can be bold, creative innovative thinkers. Often highly successful in the world, the alpha’s traits of persistence, tenacity, determination and steadfastness help them to achieve their goals.
However, these very traits can prevent a healthy relationship, or, can destroy a budding healthy relationship. Even if eighty percent of what an alpha does is really good for the relationship, the twenty percent that he or she does out of their alpha attitude and behavior is enough to blow up the relationship.
This book addresses these problems, as well as other problems encountered when working at establishing a healthy marriage relationship. These include problems secondary to gender differences. Women are both neurologically hard-wired and culturally trained to have an easier time expressing their feelings, paying attention to the feelings of those around them and navigating the waters of relationship.
Don’t despair, guys, or women who want to understand your man better. Help is here! Not only does this book outline problems encountered in beginning and maintaining a healthy relationship, it gives you step-by-step guidelines for establishing healthy marriage relationships. This manual is as easy and straightforward as a “how-to-fix-your-lawnmower” manual. Additionally, it is entertaining and at times humorous. As alphas, both men and women, you have many strengths of your own. With information and practice you have built skills such as golfing, skiing, public-speaking and marketing. You can apply your same capacity to access important information and knowledge and apply it with practice in building a healthy marriage relationship, just as you have mastered many other skills.
This book is a must for couples wanting to establish healthy marriage relationships. It will show you where the shoals are in the waters of relationships, and then give you solid directions for how to navigate around these in your journey toward a healthy marriage. The special focus on alphas is extremely useful if either or both of you are alphas. As far as we know, nothing to date addresses this in the realm of marriage relationship literature. Without the focus on the alpha, it is still a treasure of a book for anyone wanting to build a healthy relationship.
Looking for a book that helps establish healthy marriage relationships? Get your copy of Winning at Love today!
