Ways to Improve a Relationship
Authors Pat Webster and Marty Groder address ways to improve a relationship in their book Winning at Love. This book is useful for any couple looking for ways to improve a relationship. However, it also addresses ways to improve a relationship in which one or both partners are alpha. What is an alpha?
Alpha designates “the first” and we first started designating this to the leaders of animal packs, such as wolves. Approximately 40% of all males and females are alphas. The alpha is usually the strongest and the bravest, the leader of the pack. They possess such attributes as dominance, confidence, and a take-charge attitude. The alpha has a high level of self-directedness, as they doggedly go about their goals. Alphas are usually aggressive, competitive high achievers, with a strong sense of mission and can be bold, creative innovative thinkers. Often highly successful in the world, the alpha’s traits of persistence, tenacity, determination and steadfastness help them to achieve their goals.
However, when it comes to improving a relationship that would make the relationship be more loving and healthy, the very traits that make alphas successful in the world can prevent a healthy relationship. Even if eighty percent of what an alpha does is really good for the relationship, the twenty percent that he or she does out of their alpha attitude and behavior is enough to blow up the relationship. They often put their profession or career ahead of their intimate relationship, they can expect of others the same high standards that they expect of themselves, they can impose their driven nature onto others and they can come across as critical and opinionated. Alphas often feel ambivalent about being in intimate relationships.
This book discusses problems encountered in relationships and then lays out in step-by-step fashion ways to improve a relationship, much like a how-to-fix-your-lawnmower manual. The book is entertaining and humorous and the authors have brilliantly categorized relationship problems into four basic categories.
If you are a couple looking for ways to improve a relationship, if you are in a relationship in which one or both partners are alpha, or if you are in a relationship with an alpha, this book is a must.
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