Relationship Problems
We hear a lot about how relationship problems have to do with “poor communication”. What does that mean? How can one address something as vague as that?
In Winning at Love, authors Pat Webster and Marty Groder offer an explanation of relationship problems in clear, simple, and easy-to-understand language. In a ground-breaking feat, they categorize them into four categories, making them easy to diagnose. Then they offer a step-by-step set of skills for addressing problems, written in a “how to fix your lawnmower” format.
It requires that we make a commitment to ourselves to attend to small disconnects in our relationship before they either blow up or get swept under the rug so that our partnerships or marriages are stale and boring. We must also commit to absence of malice with one another. For some couples this is easy, for others difficult. When addressing relationship problems we must learn how to tell our story in a way that is honest yet not offensive to our partner. We must learn to listen to our spouse or partner’s story. Then we must decide what kind of relationship problem we are addressing.
This book brilliantly breaks them into four basic categories, making it easy to tell what you are dealing with. Then it offers step-by-step actions to take to address the problems.
While this book is useful for any couple who wants to address relationship issues it is also targeted to alpha males and females. Forty percent of the population, both male and female, is alpha. We started using the word alpha, which means “the first’, when speaking of leaders of animal groups such as wolf packs. Human alphas are often high achievers in the world of business and profession. Executive board rooms are populated with them. They are our highly successful attorneys and physicians, as well as our firefighters and policemen. Alpha men and women can show strong will, determination and perseverance in the world. They are assertive decision-makers who often have a “my way or the highway” attitude with people who disagree with them.
The same traits that gain the alpha male or female success in the outer world can cause problems at home. Their mate or family may find them overbearing and critical. They may feel second place to the alphas goals and work schedule; they sometimes wish that they were as important. If an alpha is married to or partnered with another alpha, frequent fights may ensue. If they are with a less dominating partner or spouse, the beta partner may simply give in to the strong will of the alpha, but feel dominated, may withdraw, and/or become resentful.
This book specifically addresses these problems and provides the reader skills for addressing them. While its subtitle is addressed to the alpha male, it is supremely useful for alpha females (sections of the book speak specifically to them), alphas or betas who are married to alphas, and anyone who wants to address relationship problems and have a partnership or marriage that is alive, exciting, content and loving.
Interested in learning more about solving relationship problems? Get your copy of Winning at Love today!
