Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
What are the signs of an unhealthy relationship? Here are many of them:
Fighting a lot, often without resolution One partner being dominant One or both partners withhold parts of themselves; their wants, needs, wishes, hopes, dreams, strengths.
Sweeping small or large disconnects under the table The presence of malice, which is the willful hurting, physically or emotionally of one or both partners. This can take the form of overtly or covertly threatening to hurt or leave the other. Examples would be words like, “If you know what’s good for you, you will……”, or “Someday when I’m gone, you’ll be sorry that…..” Malice can also take the form of one partner’s trying to get something from the other partner that they don’t have or are unwilling to give, through charm or intimidation.
One partner giving in to the other most of the time.
Both partners going through the motions of living, with very little life, juiciness, excitement or involvement. We call this “Chronic Marriage”.
A marriage or intimate relationship that is primarily task-oriented, with little room for pleasure or companionship outside of doing tasks.
Either or both partners lying or keeping information from the other.
Physical Abuse Seeking pleasure and companionship outside the relationship more frequently than in the relationship.
If you have one or more of these signs of an unhealthy relationship in your marriage or intimate partnership, Winning at Love is for you. In this book the authors explain, in easy-to-understand, entertaining and sometimes humorous language problems that are encountered in relationships. Special and unique attention is given to those relationships in which one or both of the partners are alphas. What is an alpha?
Alpha designates “the first” and we first started designating this to the leaders of animal packs, such as wolves. Approximately 40% of all males and females are alphas. The alpha is usually the strongest and the bravest, the leader of the pack. Alphas possess such attributes as dominance, confidence, and a take-charge attitude. Alphas have a high level of self-directedness, as they doggedly go about their goals. Alphas are usually aggressive, competitive high achievers, with a strong sense of mission and can be bold, creative innovative thinkers. Often highly successful in the world, the alpha’s traits of persistence, tenacity, determination and steadfastness help them to achieve their goals.
However, when it comes to taking steps in a relationship that would make the relationship be more loving and healthy, the very traits that make alphas successful in the world can prevent a healthy relationship. Even if eighty percent of what an alpha does is really good for the relationship, the twenty percent that he or she does out of their alpha attitude and behavior is enough to blow up the relationship. Signs of an unhealthy relationship become apparent. One of the signs that can be present in a relationship in which one or both partners is an alpha is the presence of malice, because, in the absence of other variables such as mental illness, only alphas are capable of malice.
In this book, authors Pat and Marty address the problems that lead to signs of an unhealthy relationship. Then, in the same easy-to-understand, entertaining and humorous way, they provide step-by-step guidelines for establishing a loving, juicy, companionable and functional relationship; a relationship that feels good to be in and around. Unhealthy relationships will be a thing of the past. While this book is targeted on the cover to alpha males, any couple can benefit from reading this book.
Want to learn to identify the signs of an unhealthy relationship? Get your copy of Winning at Love today!
