Women in Relationships
Women in relationships bring different things to the table than do men in relationships. Until recently, it was not known that women and men are neurologically wired differently. Women have many more neuronal connections from the emotional centers of the brain to the verbal centers. Women have difficulty understanding why their male partner has more trouble identifying his feelings, and once he has identified them, expressing them. In addition to being more facile with identifying and articulating emotional nuances, women bring, by virtue of their acculturation and early childhood training, more sensitivity to the needs and feelings of others. Women in relationships are disappointed when they expect the same relationship skills that they have of themselves.
The book, Winning at Love addresses problems women in relationships often encounter with their male partner or spouse. It helps them to understand their partner better. Unique to other self-help books about relationships, it also addresses issues that arise in the relationship secondary to either or both partners being an alpha. What is an alpha?
Alpha designates “the first” and we first started designating this to the leaders of animal packs, such as wolves. Approximately 40% of all males and females are alphas. The alpha is usually the strongest and the bravest, the leader of the pack. They possess such attributes as dominance, confidence, and a take-charge attitude. The alpha has a high level of self-directedness, as they doggedly go about their goals. Alphas are usually aggressive, competitive high achievers, with a strong sense of mission and can be bold, creative innovative thinkers. Often highly successful in the world, the alpha’s traits of persistence, tenacity, determination and steadfastness help them to achieve their goals.
However, when it comes to building healthy relationships, the very traits that make alpha men or women successful in the world can strongly contribute to sabotaging the relationship. Even if eighty percent of what an alpha does is really good for the relationship, the twenty percent that he or she does out of their alpha attitude and behavior is enough to blow up the relationship. Alphas, men and women, often put their profession or career ahead of their intimate relationship, they can expect of others the same high standards that they expect of themselves, they can impose their driven nature onto others and they can come across as critical and opinionated. They assume that building healthy relationships should happen with no effort, or without their contribution to change. They expect their partner to do all the changing.
Alphas in relationships often don’t realize that part of building healthy relationships has to do with addressing the problems particular to their being an alpha. While this is a good handbook for every couple, it is unique in that it also addresses problems specific to relationships in which one or both members are alpha.
This book is written in easy-to-understand language that is entertaining and at times humorous; it avoids mental health clichés, professional jargon and dense language. This book is a must for women in relationships, men, partners who are in relationships in which one or both members are alpha and anyone who is intent on building a relationship that is alive, juicy, functional, companionable and comfortable. It’s high time for a book that helps women better understand their man, and especially an alpha man, or their own alpha nature. Winning at Love does just that!
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